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As parents, we often find ourselves juggling work, household chores, and activities while trying to squeeze in as much quality time with our kids as possible.

This is even more difficult when you only have a limited time with your kids because they're splitting their time between their home with you and their home with their other parent.

But amid all this chaos, it's easy to forget that it's not just about the quantity of time we spend with our children but the quality of that time.

It's All About Quality Over Quantity

It's hard to slow down sometimes and be present in the moment to enjoy your kids.

Especially when you only see your kids for part of the week because you share their time with their other parent.

It's hard not to feel like you have to fill up their time with you with a ton of activities. After all, you only have a limited amount of time with them every week.

This is the wrong way to think about it. Your kids don't want to run around with you, rushing from activity to activity.

They're not going to remember the events; they're just going to remember that they were always rushing around and never had time to chill out with their parent.

It's not about filling up every moment with activities or fully engaging with your kids the entire time. It's about short bursts of focused quality time where your kids can feel they have your full attention.

It's about balance.

Sometimes, you must slow down, sit with them, and let them guide the conversation or activity.

Take a deep breath and let everything else in your mind go. Let go of the worries of the day, the thoughts about what you'll cook for dinner, and the endless list of chores.

Let all of it go for a few minutes, and pay attention to that moment with your kids. Don't try to guide them, correct them, or suggest anything.

Listen to what they have to say. Ask them follow-up questions and let them know you genuinely listen to them.

Whatever you do, do not touch your phone! This is their time with you that is free from external distractions.

These are the memorable moments your kids will remember as they grow up. The quality time they spend with you is where they feel validated and heard.

Doing this will help you connect with your kids on a deeper level and strengthen your long-term bond with them as they grow up.

It reminds them they have a safe space to share their life with you, free from criticism or correction. It helps build their confidence and allows them to express themselves with you.

Remember, every moment that passes is a moment you will never get back. Time continues to move forward, and they grow older by the second. So do you.

It won't be long until they'd rather be with their friends or exploring their independence as a teenager. It won't be long until your old as fuck.

Not only that, but you could lose your life anytime between now and then. Let that determine what you do, say, and think during these special moments with your kids.

Would you prefer that your kids remember you as someone who was constantly distracted, running around stressed out, and never had time to connect with them?

Or would you prefer they remember you as someone who was present with them and took the time to know them honestly?

I know what I would choose. What about you?